Sunday, February 28, 2016

Daily renewals




Every day is a fresh start. What I am to become I am becoming now.

Tuesday, February 23, 2016

Day 52

I'm at day 52 for a more disciplined life. I woke up at 4:30 am and felt rather happy.
Prayed, studied, journal and went for a walk. I only done it 2 times over the days off. But I felt good. I accomplished a few things that I've been wanting to.

Usually being up that early would sometimes mean that I'd be a wee bit sleepy by noon. Which is true. But then again I would be sleepy too if I were to wake up at 7. One big change is that, I'd be so tired I'd  drift off to sleep almost immediately in the evenings.

I find myself clearer with what I need to do. And I forget bad emotions somewhat quicker as I focus on my goals each day.

I love this new experience and happy that I've made the decision to start my days earlier with a set of routines. I've still ways to go to get the habit ingrained in my system but I'm on my way... that is for sure.

Thank you for reading!! :)

Sunday, February 14, 2016

SMART goals setting

I've tried goals settings before and more times than not, I've failed to follow through. Especially when it comes to my Hungarian language learning. My language skill is passable but not good enough for work purposes - which is what I would like to remedy.

So in my effort to try again, I've looked at what went wrong with the way I do things. One reason I was not motivated enough, and the reason that my motivation just went down is because I didn't have a specific goal. My goal was rather vague. I didn't know that - Being able to speak confidently by end of such and such year is not good enough.

What I've learnt and what I want to share here about goal setting is that, you need to do it the SMART way.

S- specific. Be as specific as you can. Say if you want to learn a new language. What are the resources you are going to stick to. How many hours a day you are willing to dedicate a day or a week.

M- measurable. There is a need to be able to measure the progress. If you don't know where you are at, you won't be motivated to push yourself. Weigh it every 2 days for example. Or speak to someone in the new language you are trying to learn.

A - achievable. It should be achievable. Saying to myself I will learn 1000 words a month sounds a wee bit overwhelming and that would be demotivating. I should say 1 or 2 words a day minimum and use these words frequently perhaps that sounds a little bit less scary.

R - realistic. You want to lose 10 kgs in a week perhaps would be unrealistic and down right dangerous. In case of learning a new language, its okay to not be able to speak like a native and make lots of mistakes.

T - time bound. There should be a deadline - starting time and when you will end. Without one you wouldn't push yourself to finish a work, you tend to procrastinate more and eventually lose the motivation altogether. For losing weight you can say you'd like to lose a kg for the first month.


I'm just resetting back all my goals and start from this. It takes a bit of thought and a whole lot of discipline that is for sure. But I do believe that by setting goals and sticking to it would increase my chance of achieving my dreams by 99.9% at least. I'm sure of that. Let's review all this again by end of 2016 shall we? :)

Thanks for reading!



Thursday, February 11, 2016

Morning routine for a better life

Don't judge your day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds you sow. - R.L.S




Since end of December of 2015, I started to wake up early than I normally would. It is in a way, a New Year's resolution except that I started it at the end of the year. You see... we don't need to wait till the new year to start the change. :)
I started of waking up at 5:30 am. Then 5:00am and sometimes 4:30 am. My day would start with saying my gratitude and time with God. Just for 10 or 20 minutes depending on what I wanted to talk to Him about.
Then I would read something to inspire me. Motivational books. Scriptures. Anything to lift up the spirits. Many times I'd feel like I could accomplish anything that day after a dose of daily motivation.
For the first few weeks these were the things I concentrated on.
Later on I started to write down my to do list for the day. Or mini goals. Usually things I need to get done in the office or if it is over the weekend things to clean or tidy up etc.
This is also the time for me to review my vision board or notes. What I want to have or do.
For the past few weeks these were the things that I've been doing everyday. Studies say that to create a new habit you need at least 30 days of doing the same things everyday. So far I have been sticking to the same routine and loving it. I am adding exercise starting from tomorrow.
I know myself too well to not pack my mornings with too many activities when I started out to create a new habit. It just felt that it is about time I add something else on top of the other things I've been doing.
I noticed that ever since I started my day this way, I feel a sense of control and the ability to focus on my tasks everyday. How you start your day dictates how you manage the rest of your day.  I am kept motivated to do my best.
It is the little things you do every day to improve your life is more important than thinking about what you will get in life. I do believe that you just do your best every day and the good things in life will find their ways to you.
Thank you for reading. :)

Saturday, February 6, 2016

Deserve

My alarm woke me up at 4:00 AM. I turned it off and went back to sleep. I allowed myself to sleep a little bit longer today. Woke up at 8 AM feeling rested. It is Saturday after all. I needed it. I deserved it. :)
Feeling energised to do the house work, I started the first round of laundry, plugged in my headphones listened to one of Les Brown's motivational talk on YouTube while I was doing the hoovering. He is my current favourite speaker. On one part of his speech he talks about deserving what we ask for and ask this of his listeners; to write down 5 reasons why we deserve success or the things we want. It surprised me to feel the feeling of undeserving just by thinking of it. Instead of why I deserve, strings of "why I don't deserve" feelings popped up. "Because it is not nice to ask for something good, I don't think the universe or God is listening to little ol' me, or I am not good enough.." And it goes on. That got me thinking that I need to work on this inner issues.
My strategy is to make myself consider and write down on a piece of paper of what I think is the main 5 reasons why I deserve to be successful and enjoy the good things that life has got to offer. Read them a few times a day till it sinks in. That I am totally worthy. For the simple reason that we are made in His image alone should make it a one good enough reason for us to be successful and achieve what ever we set out to do. 

I believe this problem is not uniquely mine. There is always the little voices in our heads that talk us out of asking for a raise or look for a better job position or start that business because somewhere deep within us saying that perhaps we just don't deserve those things or just not up to it. And it is comfortable to let things be the way they are... until the discomfort outbalance the feeling of undeserving and we say 'I've had enough of this'. I deserve something better. :)